10 Myths & Misconceptions about Divorces

March 14, 2023

There are so many myths & misconceptions about divorce. Let’s clear up some of the most common divorce myths so you can approach your situation with accurate information:

Divorce Myth #1: Divorces are Always Adversarial

While divorce can be emotionally charged, it doesn’t have to be a war. Many couples can agree on terms amicably, with minimal court involvement.

Divorce Misconception #2: Divorces are Always Expensive

While legal fees can add up, opting for mediation or uncontested divorce can save both time and money. It all depends on how much you and your spouse can agree on.

Divorce Misconception #3: Mothers Automatically Get Custody

Illinois courts focus on what’s in the best interests of the child, not parental gender. This means considering many factors, including each parent’s ability to provide care and the child’s relationship with each parent. It’s about parenting time allocation, not who “wins.”

Divorce Myth #4: Divorce Court is Always Slow

Not necessarily! While contested divorces can drag on, an uncontested case with a clear agreement can often be finalized surprisingly quickly.

Divorce Misconception #5: All Divorce Cases Go to Trial

Trial is a last resort. Most divorces are settled outside of court through negotiation or mediation.

Divorce Myth #6: One Spouse Always Gets Everything

Illinois courts aim for fairness, not to punish one spouse. While the division of assets might not be perfectly equal, it’s based on various factors to achieve an equitable outcome.

Divorce Myth #7: Divorces Always Result in a Bitter Fight

Divorce doesn’t have to be a battle. Many couples can work together to reach agreements, especially with the help of a mediator or skilled attorneys.

Divorce Misconception #8: You Lose Control of Your Life in Divorce Court

By choosing negotiation or mediation over litigation, you and your spouse retain significant control over the outcome of your divorce.

Divorce Myth #9: Divorces Always Require Expensive Attorneys

While legal representation is recommended, simpler divorces often require less attorney involvement, leading to lower costs.

Divorce Misconception #10: Divorce Always Has a Negative Outcome

While divorce is undoubtedly a difficult experience, it can also be a fresh start. With the right support, many couples achieve positive outcomes and build healthier, happier futures.

Need Guidance Through Your Divorce?

Divorce is complex, but it doesn’t have to be a nightmare. As an attorney, I handle divorce differently than most. I help you keep focused on the outcome of settling and moving on, not remaining in an expensive battle that benefits me financially. I will discuss my fees up front and let you make payments. If you think you can work with your soon-to-be-ex, reach out. If you need ideas of the topics you will have to agree on, look here or here. And when you are ready, contact me or give me a call.