Moving Forward with Positivity: Tips for Healing and Growth After Divorce, Part 2

January 25, 2024

In my previous post, I talked about the first part of moving forward positively towards your post-married life. Today, I want to explore the second part of the work towards a positive post-divorce future.


This isn’t about filling the void left by your marriage; it’s about cultivating a life that’s authentically yours, filled with purpose and joy.

1. Cultivate a Growth Mindset:

  • Embrace the Reinvention: Divorce isn’t the end; it’s the beginning of a new chapter. Let go of the label of “spouse” and rediscover who you are at your core. Explore old passions, ignite new interests, and unleash your individuality. This is your chance to craft a life that truly resonates with you.
  • Embrace Yourself: Don’t forget that you are a wonderful, unique individual. Bring the amazing person you are back out to shine.


2. Set Ambitious Goals:

  • Dream Big: Don’t settle for the mundane. What hidden desires have been simmering beneath the surface? Learn French, travel to Thailand, write that novel, or finally pursue that dream career. Setting ambitious goals gives you a sense of purpose and direction, propelling you forward into a future filled with excitement and accomplishment.
  • Dream Small: Set small and attainable goals too. Paint your bedroom the color you always wanted, get a pet, start collecting & trying new recipes. Small goals and small things add up to the happiness on a daily basis and also lead to a happier, more positive future.


3. Invest in Personal Growth:

  • Turn Lessons into Learning: Reflect on your marriage, both the good and the challenging aspects. What did you learn? What personal qualities do you want to strengthen? This introspection is key to becoming a more empowered, resilient version of yourself. Consider self-help books, workshops, or even therapy to guide you on this journey of self-discovery.
  • Put Aside the Lessons that Hurt: Its perfectly fine to put something into the rearview mirror. Not all experiences are for growth — some just are part of your past and should remain there.


4. Build a Supportive Network:

  • Surround Yourself with Champions: Surround yourself with positive, uplifting individuals who believe in you and your goals. These are the cheerleaders who celebrate your victories, the confidants who offer a listening ear, and the encouragers who push you to reach your full potential. Seek out communities, groups, and individuals who share your values and aspirations.
  • And Remember, You are Your Best Support. You can do hard things, and you now know that you have the toughness and fortitude to make it through a very rough time.


Remember, your post-divorce journey is unique. Embrace the challenges, celebrate the small victories, and above all, trust yourself. By cultivating a growth mindset, setting ambitious goals, investing in personal development, and building a supportive network, you can not only move forward, but thrive in your new chapter.

If you are ready to start towards your own post-divorce life, reach out to my office. My passion lies in helping those people who can reach agreements with their soon-to-be-ex, drafting the best paperwork I can, and doing so affordably. Call me at 618-726-2671 or contact me through my website: