Surviving the Holidays After Divorce

The holiday season can be a joyous time, filled with family traditions and festive gatherings. But after a divorce, the holidays can also be a source of sadness, loneliness, and stress. Whether you have children or not, this time of year can be challenging to navigate. Here are some strategies to help with surviving the holidays after divorce.

 

Tips for Surviving the Holidays After Divorce For Parents:

 

• Embrace New Traditions: Your old traditions may need a little tweaking to fit your new family structure. Don’t be afraid to create new rituals that reflect your current circumstances. Start a new tradition of baking cookies together, volunteering at a local shelter, or exploring a new holiday activity.

 

• Celebrate “Your” Holiday: If your parenting time allocation agreement allows, create a special holiday celebration for the days you have your children. Make it a day filled with their favorite activities, food, and memories that are unique to your new family unit. Focus on creating a warm and loving environment where your children feel safe and secure.

 

• Plan for the Days You Don’t Have the Kids: When it’s your ex-spouse’s turn to have the children, plan something special for yourself. It’s okay to feel sad or lonely, but don’t let those feelings consume you. Schedule activities that bring you joy and help you recharge. Perhaps consider a weekend getaway, a spa day, or simply indulge in some guilt-free relaxation at home.

 

• Connect with Friends and Family: Surround yourself with loved ones who can offer support and companionship. Invite friends over for a potluck dinner, plan a game night, or attend a holiday party together. If you’re feeling adventurous, consider traveling to visit family or friends in another city or state.

 

• Volunteer Your Time: Helping others can be a powerful way to lift your spirits and gain perspective. Consider volunteering at a local charity, soup kitchen, or animal shelter. Giving back to your community can create a sense of purpose and connection during a time that might feel isolating.

 

• Indulge in “Me Time”: Use this time to do things you can’t normally do with children around. Binge-watch movies, read that book you’ve been meaning to start, or simply relax and pamper yourself. Take a long bath, get a massage, or try a new hobby.

 

Additional Tips for Surviving the Holidays

 

• Reimagine Your Holidays: This is your opportunity to create new traditions that resonate with your current lifestyle and interests. Maybe it’s traveling to a new destination, starting a Friendsgiving tradition, or simply enjoying a quiet day at home. This is a chance to explore what brings you joy and create a holiday experience that feels authentic to you.

 

• Reconnect with Loved Ones: Reach out to friends and family, especially if you’ve been feeling isolated. Spending time with loved ones can offer much-needed support and a sense of belonging during the holidays. Consider hosting a holiday gathering, attending a party, or simply scheduling one-on-one time with friends or family members you cherish.

 

• Embrace New Experiences: Step outside your comfort zone and try something new. Take a cooking class, learn a new language, or sign up for a fun activity. Exploring new interests can open up new possibilities and help you rediscover yourself.

 

• Give Back to Others: Volunteering your time and talents can be a fulfilling way to connect with your community and make a difference in the lives of others. Look for local organizations that need help during the holidays, and offer your time and energy to a cause you care about.

 

• Practice Self-Care: Divorce is emotionally draining. Make sure to prioritize your mental and physical health. Exercise, meditate, journal – do whatever helps you relax and recharge. Consider trying yoga, mindfulness practices, or simply spending time in nature to reduce stress and promote well-being.

 

Remember: The holidays after divorce will be different, but they don’t have to be miserable. By focusing on creating new traditions, connecting with loved ones, and taking care of yourself, you can navigate this season with grace and find joy in the new beginnings it brings.

 

Some Don’ts for Surviving the Holidays after Divorce:

 

• Do not overindulge, especially if you need to drive. The hangover will just make you feel more miserable in the long run. And when you overindulge, you lose inhibitions and set yourself up to do something regrettable.

 

• Don’t spend the holiday with a regrettable fling. It will make you feel miserable and empty.

 

• Avoid the temptation of reaching out to your now-ex to reminisce, or worse, try to get back together. It never works out.

 

• Don’t try reaching out to your divorce lawyer. Remember, lawyers are humans too, and they probably will charge you a ton to chat during the holidays.

 

• Don’t make your children feel guilty for enjoying the holiday with their other parent. As tempting as it might be to call or text, let your kids have the time with their other parent. They will feel torn if they know you are lonely and potentially resent the parent they are with, or worse yet, resent you for interrupting their time.

 

Seeking Support for a Smoother Transition

Remember, you don’t have to navigate the challenges of divorce alone. I can help you with the legal side of your simple, no-contest or uncontested divorce. If you’re seeking a respectful and efficient resolution outside of court, reach out. My focus is on helping you reach amicable agreements that prioritize your well-being. Call my office or schedule yourself a free uncontested divorce consultation.

 

Disclaimer: The information contained herein is general in nature and should not be construed as legal, medical, or financial advice.