The choices we make, or, why choosing to settle is usually better

October 9, 2020

Imagine this: you’re a typical middle-class family in the Metro East, facing the difficult reality of divorce. Your assets are modest, your debts are manageable, and you’re both ready to move on. But instead of finding a peaceful resolution, you and your spouse decide to fight it out in court.

What happens next can be a financial and emotional nightmare.

The Financial Drain of Litigation


Let’s be clear: divorce litigation is expensive. Even before attorney fees, filing fees in Illinois are $500 or more. Then come the costs of attorney consultations, document preparation, court appearances, and potentially even expert witnesses. It’s not uncommon for couples with modest assets to spend tens of thousands of dollars on their divorce.

But it’s not just about the money.

The Emotional Toll of Court Battles


Divorce is already emotionally draining, but litigation amplifies the pain. Court hearings can be grueling, with both sides digging up dirt and airing grievances in public. This adversarial process can create lasting resentment and bitterness, making it difficult to co-parent or move on with your life.

The Unrealistic Expectations of Court

Many people believe that going to court will allow them to “win” or punish their ex-spouse. But the reality is often different. Judges focus on fairness and practicality, not on emotional grievances. The result is often a compromise that leaves neither party fully satisfied. It will, however, leave you in debt.

A Different Path: Choosing to Settle and have an Amicable Divorce

Instead of battling it out in court, consider a different path: an amicable, out-of-court resolution. By working together to reach agreements on property division, finances, and parenting arrangements, you can save money, reduce stress, and create a more positive outcome for everyone involved.

What to Expect from an Amicable Divorce

  • Lower legal fees: You’ll save money on attorney fees.
  • Reduced stress and conflict: You’ll avoid the emotional turmoil of court battles.
  • Faster resolution: Agreements can be reached more quickly than drawn-out litigation.
  • More control over the outcome: You and your spouse decide the terms of your divorce, not a judge. The Judge does insure it is equitable.

Ready for a Less Stressful Divorce?

So, if you are contemplating the end of your marriage, do you want to spend your small nest-egg on legal services or on your new house? If the scenario I just told you about does not sound like what you want, I offer a different way to get divorced. A peaceful way, but it is one you have to choose for yourself. If you can make the choice to be fair, civil and realistic with your soon-to-be-ex, then I have your solution to save yourself time, tons of money, and your ability to move on with a lot less debt.


As an Illinois divorce attorney, I focus on helping clients achieve amicable resolutions outside of court. If you’re ready to explore a more peaceful and cost-effective path to divorce, call my office at 618-726-2671 or reach out through my website for a free consultation.


The details of your situation are important. Hire an attorney to ensure your rights are protected and your divorce is handled properly.