What Comes After Your Divorce, Part Three (the fun stuff)

March 25, 2024

Divorce can be one of the most emotionally turbulent experiences in life. The end of a marriage signifies the loss of shared dreams, a disrupted routine, and a fundamental shift in your identity. Yet, within this upheaval lies a unique opportunity – a chance to rediscover yourself, to embrace newfound freedom, and to create a life centered around your own happiness.


The Joy of Being Single


While the initial transition to singlehood can feel disorienting, it’s essential to remember that being single is far from a negative state. It’s a liberating and empowering status that allows for unprecedented personal growth. Here’s why you should relish your time being single:


  • No More Compromises: As a single individual, you get to call all the shots – big and small. You won’t be tied down by another person’s needs, preferences, or opinions. The power of choice, in all its forms, is yours to wield.


  • Focus on Self-Care: Unburdened from the weight of an unhappy relationship, you finally have ample time and energy to nurture yourself. Invest in hobbies, explore your passions, and attend to your physical and mental well-being.


  • Rediscovering Friendships: Divorces can put a strain on your social life. Take this opportunity to reconnect with old friends or forge new connections with people who share your interests and goals.


The Delights of a Customized Life


Living on your own means you get to design your life from the ground up. Consider your space and your daily routine as blank canvases just waiting for your touch.


  • The Food is Yours: Say goodbye to catering to someone else’s palate. Embrace the freedom of cooking exactly what you want, when you want it. Stock your fridge with your favorite foods, experiment with new recipes, or rediscover the simple pleasures of a home-cooked meal. Unless you have a pet. Then you will have to still share.


  • Your Home, Your Style: Your home is your sanctuary, and after a divorce, you now have the liberty to furnish and decorate it to your heart’s desire. Choose a color palette that makes you happy, decorate with art or artifacts that inspire you, or simply create a space that feels like a cozy, welcoming haven.


  • The Power of Routine: Establish a daily routine that suits your needs and priorities. Structure and predictability can be especially comforting in the wake of change. Designate time for exercise, reading, a relaxing bath, or whatever allows you to recharge and center yourself.


Tips for Navigating the Transition


Embracing your newfound freedom takes time and effort. Here are some tips to help you smoothly navigate the post-divorce period:


  • Allow Yourself to Grieve: The end of a marriage is a loss. Give yourself permission to experience grief, sadness, and anger. Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist if needed.


  • Don’t Rush into a New Relationship: While the temptation to fill the void with another person might be strong, resist the urge. Use this time to become reacquainted with yourself and to clarify what you truly want in a future partner.


  • Take Up a New Hobby: Immerse yourself in a new activity. It’s a wonderful way to spark joy, distract yourself from negative thoughts, and potentially meet new people.
    The Bottom Line


  • Celebrate it too: Its perfectly normal to feel happy to be divorced too. It can help you move on to your new future to celebrate your divorce. Plan a party, smash your wedding glasses, and have a good time.


Divorce is a challenging journey, but it’s also a chance for a fresh start. Embrace the freedom of singlehood, savor the autonomy of designing your own life, and indulge in the simple pleasures of doing things for yourself. Remember, the best is yet to come. Your path ahead holds limitless possibilities for self-discovery, joy, and fulfillment. Choose to embrace it with both hands.


Ready to get started towards your post-divorce life? Contact my office to see if I can help you with your uncontested divorce. And if you throw a party I’ll even celebrate in spirit with you.