When is the Right Time to Get a Divorce?

September 6, 2023

There are some signs that can indicate that your marriage may be over:

  • You have grown apart. If you and your spouse no longer have anything in common, or if you no longer feel like you are on the same page about your life goals, this could be a sign that your marriage is in trouble.
  • You are no longer happy. If you are not happy in your marriage, and you have tried to make things work but you have not been successful, this could be a sign that it is time to move on.
  • There is no trust. If you and your spouse no longer trust each other, this can make it very difficult to have a healthy relationship.
  • You just do not want to go home, or do not really care if your spouse comes home,
  • There is conflict and arguing. If you and your spouse are constantly arguing and fighting, this is a sign that your relationship is not working.
  • There is abuse. If you are being abused, this is a clear sign that your marriage is over.
  • After weighing the pros and cons, your reasons for staying married are short or you are unable to think of any.
  • and here are some additional signs it may be over


Divorce can be a long and expensive process, and it can also be emotionally difficult. However, if you are unhappy in your marriage and you have tried to make things work, divorce may be the best option for you.


Here are some tips that can help you with the decision:


  • Talk to a therapist. A therapist can help you deal with the emotional challenges of deciding to divorce.
  • Talk to your spouse. If you are still able to communicate with your spouse, it is important to talk to them about your potential decision to get a divorce.
  • Talk to your friends, especially those who have been divorced. Thier personal experiences might help you better understand what they went through and when they decided.
  • Make a plan. Once you have decided to get a divorce, it is important to make a plan. This includes things like deciding how to divide your assets, how to co-parent your children, and how to move forward with your lives. If you want ideas, check here and here


There is a sweet spot in time when you know it’s bad but you have not started to hate each other. This is the time when you are still willing to work together to get divorced amicably, but you know that the marriage is no longer working for you. If that describes you, reach out to my office through my contact form or call me. I would be happy to chat with you if you need help with an uncontested divorce to see if I am the right lawyer to help you through.